Who Is Your Master?
Your life will always reflect who — or what — is your master.
Is it the past, pain, or patterns that call the shots? Are your life experiences leading you, defining you, holding you in place? Or… are you gently, courageously, becoming the master of your life experiences?
This isn’t about control. It’s about choice. It’s about awareness. It’s about taking your power back, moment by moment, breath by breath.
Life happens for each one of us. We’re shaped by joy, by grief, by love, by trauma. But at some point, we’re invited to ask: Am I reacting from the wounds of yesterday, or responding from the wisdom I’ve gained?
When we let our experiences be the master, we live on autopilot. We repeat stories, we shrink, we protect instead of expand. But when we step into our inner authority — with compassion, with presence — something shifts. We begin to alchemize our experiences instead of being defined by them.
Becoming the master of your life doesn’t mean having it all figured out. It means trusting that you have everything within you to meet life as it comes — not from fear, but from truth.
So ask yourself gently, with love:
Who is leading — my past or my presence? My pain or my power?
You’re not here to be ruled by your story. You’re here to rise from it — wiser, softer, stronger.
From a Quantum Physics Perspective
In the quantum field, all possibilities exist as potential. What you observe, and how you observe it, influences what becomes real. If you keep focusing through the lens of your past, you collapse the same outcomes again and again — not because you're broken, but because energy follows attention.
When you shift your awareness — when you choose to observe from the now, from love, from expanded consciousness — you begin to create a different future. You move from being unconsciously shaped by your past to consciously shaping your reality. You become the co-creator, not just the survivor.
From a Heart & Soul Perspective
Your soul didn’t come here to be shackled by old pain. It came to evolve, to awaken, and to remember itself as love — even in the face of challenge.
Your heart is the compass. When you slow down enough to feel, to trust your own rhythm, you start hearing the whispers of your soul. They will never shout. They will never shame. They simply invite: Come back to love. Come back to yourself.
Let your soul lead. Let your heart remind you that your essence is already whole, already enough. That is mastery.
From a Psychotherapy Perspective
Psychologically, we are often driven by unconscious patterns formed early in life. Our beliefs, habits, and emotional reactions are shaped by experiences we didn’t choose — but they live within us as if they are still happening.
Therapeutic healing allows us to bring those patterns into the light. Through awareness, inner child work, somatic healing, or talk therapy, we begin to interrupt the cycle. We begin to choose, instead of react. And in that space of choice, we reclaim our agency.
You’re no longer a child trying to survive. You’re an adult who can choose to thrive — with support, with compassion, with time.
A Personal Reflection: From My Own Experience
From my own experience, I’ve lived the “life sucks” narrative. I’ve worn the “I am broken” story like a badge. I once believed that no one could fix me, that I was unworthy of healing, that I would always carry the weight of my past.
But now, I’m in a new chapter of my journey. I’m shifting the story.
What if anything is possible?
What if I am whole instead of broken? What if I step into the truth that I am light — and I’m meant to shine brightly?
I’m learning that mastery isn’t about perfection or “getting it all right.” It’s about choosing again, in every moment, to align with the truth of who I am. And the truth is: I am whole. I am enough. I am light. And so are you.
This shift is an ongoing process — one that invites me to leave the “broken” story behind, to step into love, power, and possibility. Every time I choose this new narrative, I feel more aligned with my soul’s purpose. And this is the power we all have: the choice to rewrite our story, moment by moment.
My Secret: I See Myself in Everyone
What’s my secret? How did I go from not seeing much, to seeing so much more?
It’s simple: I see myself in everyone.
I have been training myself to be compassionate, understanding, and forgiving to everyone around me. Why? Because deep down, I understand — I am them, and they are me. Every person I meet is a reflection of some aspect of myself in another form.
When I see someone doing well, I celebrate them — "You go, girl!" or "You go, boy!" That's me in some other life. When I see someone struggling or sad, I send them all the love and compassion energy I can. Why? Because that's me in some other reality, too.
Sometimes when I see someone begging on the streets, I think: That’s me in some other lifetime, so what would I want if I were them? It’s simple for me. I buy food and offer it to them, or sometimes I ask, “What can I get for you that will help?” And when they ask for something, whether it's a cup of tea, McDonald's, or groceries, I do my best to give them what they ask for.
I remember one time when I asked a homeless man what I could buy him. He gave me a list of meats, and as I walked through the shop, I thought, How is he going to cook these? So, I bought him the frozen meat he asked for, but I also searched for cooked versions of the meat, just in case. When I gave it to him and explained what I’d done, we both had a good laugh. It was such a small but meaningful moment, one that reminded me how connected we all are, no matter the circumstances.
Just recently, a family member was supposed to visit us, but she didn’t show up. My son asked me, "Mum, isn’t your cousin supposed to visit us today?" I smiled and said, “Yes, but maybe it’s just not in their alignment today to visit us. And maybe it's not in our alignment to host their energy either. When the time is right, they will come.”
My son hugged me and said, “Mum, you’re so cool. I’ve seen people get really angry in situations like this, but you handle it so calmly." I laughed and thought, Wow, I’ve really shifted. There was a time when that same experience would have evoked anger, rejection, and sadness.
But I also realized something important: There is a ripple effect to how we respond. When I respond with anger or frustration, even if my kids have done nothing wrong, it still affects them. They pick up on the energy, and it shapes their emotional landscape. By choosing a more grounded, compassionate response, I am modeling for them how to navigate life’s challenges with grace. It’s not just about me anymore; it’s about all of us.
Ask Your Inner 5-Year-Old: Who Is Your Master?
Sometimes the part of you running the show isn’t the adult — it’s the inner child who’s still holding fear, still waiting to be loved, still trying to be good enough to feel safe.
Try this simple, loving practice to connect:
Find a quiet moment. Close your eyes and take a few slow breaths.
Picture your 5-year-old self. What do they look like? What are they feeling?
Gently ask:
"Sweetheart, who feels like the master of your world right now? Is it fear? Is it someone else's voice? Is it love?"Listen softly. Let the answer rise naturally — in a feeling, an image, or a word.
Offer reassurance:
"Thank you for showing me. I’m here with you now. You don’t have to carry this alone anymore. You are safe. We get to choose love now."
This practice isn’t about fixing your younger self — it’s about witnessing them, loving them, and letting them know: You’re no longer alone. We’ve got this. Love is leading now.
Final Reflection
To live in mastery is not to dominate your life, but to dance with it — consciously, gently, powerfully.
To witness where you’ve been, and still choose where you’re going.
To lead from presence, not pain.
To respond with truth, not trauma.
To let love — the kind that honors all parts of you — be the master now.
You are the master of your energy, your choices, your becoming.
So, who is your master?
Let it be love.
Let it be you.
P.S. For the record, I don’t always model the best behavior for my kids all the time. I do lose my shit sometimes. I’m human. I’m learning. But I always try to come back to love, to awareness, and to compassion. It’s a journey, and I’m walking it, just like you.