Let’s Talk About Anger…
Let’s Talk About Anger: Understanding It, Decoding It, and Dissolving It
Anger is a powerful emotion that can feel intense, overwhelming, and even destructive. But what if we could understand it better? What if, instead of fearing anger, we could work with it and transform it into something productive?
The Science of Anger
Anger is a natural response designed to alert us to injustice, unmet needs, or perceived threats. When triggered, the brain’s amygdala activates, releasing stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. This is known as the fight-or-flight response. While anger can be a healthy response to certain situations, chronic or suppressed anger can lead to anxiety, tension, and even physical illness.
Anger in Psychology
From a psychological perspective, anger often stems from past wounds, unresolved emotions, or frustration over unmet expectations. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) teaches that anger is largely influenced by our thoughts, meaning that by shifting our perspective, we can change our experience of anger.
The Spiritual and Energetic Meaning of Anger
Many spiritual traditions view anger as a sign that something within us needs attention and healing. It is often linked to the solar plexus chakra, which represents personal power and self-worth. Holding onto anger can create energetic blockages, making it difficult to feel balanced and in control.
What Anger is Teaching Us
What I have been learning about anger is that it always carries a message. When you connect with the message and take action, the anger either reduces or dissolves. Anger may be telling you that you have unresolved emotions linked to a past experience, or that a boundary has been crossed. By listening to what anger is trying to communicate, you can take steps toward resolution and empowerment instead of letting it control you.
My Personal Experience with Anger
My own experience with anger has varied. Sometimes, I experience what I would call "justified anger"—the kind where I recognize my frustration and can address it rationally. Other times, I experience a deeper, more confusing anger—the kind that arises suddenly, and I don’t know why. This can be unsettling because there is no clear reason for it.
Through my journey, I have learned that the subconscious mind holds the key to uncovering hidden anger. This is where tools like hypnosis come in. When facilitated properly by a trained hypnotherapist, hypnosis can help access unconscious memories and reveal the root cause of anger.
Past life hypnosis is another powerful tool that can uncover anger stemming from experiences beyond this lifetime. Many people who undergo past life regression find that unresolved emotional wounds, betrayals, or injustices from past incarnations continue to affect them in the present. By exploring these past experiences in a safe and guided setting, individuals can gain insight, understanding, and ultimately dissolve the anger that has carried over into their current life.
When I work with clients who don’t know the root cause of their anger, I notice that they struggle to let go of it. However, once they connect with the root cause—often linked to unmet emotional needs or past experiences—they are able to dissolve it. Many of these root causes stem from emotions that were trapped due to a lack of understanding at the time they were first experienced. By addressing these deeper layers, true healing can begin.
How to Work with Anger: Tips for Dissolving It
The opposite of anger is calm. When working with affirmations, it’s important to include the word "calm" to rewire the subconscious mind. Saying affirmations in sets of three helps reinforce their power. Try repeating:
"I am replacing the anger feeling with the calm feeling."
"I am transforming my anger emotions into feeling calm emotions now."
"I am calm, I am centered, I am in control."
What If the Anger You Feel Is Not Yours?
Sometimes, the anger you experience may not even be your own. You might have absorbed it from someone else. In these cases, affirmations can help:
If you noticed anger arising around a specific person, say: "I am dissolving the absorbed anger that I have taken on from [person's name]." (Repeat three times.)
If you realize you have simply sympathized and shared in another’s anger, say: "I am dissolving the shared anger emotion with [person's name] now." (Repeat three times.)
When I started working with myself in this way, I noticed that I felt much lighter and not as weighed down after being around certain people.
Protecting Your Energy in Advance
If you know you will be in a space with someone whose energy tends to feel heavy or overwhelming, prepare yourself by saying this affirmation three times before entering:
"I am dissolving all excess energy in advance that is not belonging to me now for the next three hours."
This practice helps prevent energetic overwhelm and keeps your emotional state balanced.
Energy Hygiene: Protecting Your Energy Field
One powerful technique for protecting your energy is using light and visualizing energetic shields. You can imagine Archangel Michael's blue light of protection surrounding you, completely blocking anything negative from entering your energy system.
Alternatively, visualize yourself inside a pyramid, spinning both clockwise and counterclockwise. Picture a radiant white or gold energy transforming around you, spinning so fast that no negativity can enter your space. Another option is imagining a tornado of white or gold energy spinning around you—this creates a strong, protective shield that prevents any negative energy from coming into your field.
There are countless ways to work with energy shielding, and the key is to find a method that feels fun, powerful, and effective for you.
Anger Reflection Worksheet
Use this worksheet alone or with a partner to explore and dissolve anger.
What is an anger trigger you are currently facing?
How does this anger feel in your body? (Tight chest, clenched jaw, tense muscles, etc.)
What thoughts are connected to this anger?
Is this anger based on a real event, or is it tied to a past experience or assumption?
What small step can you take to address this anger in a healthy way?
What would life feel like if this anger no longer controlled you?
What supportive words or affirmations can you tell yourself when anger arises?
Who can you reach out to for support?
Final Thoughts
Anger is not the enemy. It is a messenger, guiding us to areas that need healing, boundaries that need to be set, and emotions that need to be acknowledged. By understanding anger—scientifically, psychologically, spiritually, and energetically—we can learn to work with it in a healthy and empowering way.
You are stronger than your anger. And you don’t have to face it alone.